Life with others

Genesis tells us God created the heavens and the earth, everything therein, Adam, … and thought it wasn’t good for the man to be alone.

At times, it’s good when we set ourselves apart to refresh, rest, and possibly enjoy time with God, but for the sake of this post, let’s focus on the being with others.

Thinking about Ecclesiastes 4: 11, “…. how can one be warm alone?” I like to be warm physically, and in my heart. You know, the feeling of having the warmth in your heart?

Of course there is a feeling of love associated with warmth in the heart, but there’s also the sense of belonging. No one wants to feel they are on this planet alone. Ecclesiastes 4: 12 says: “If one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” We are stronger together.

Hebrews 10: 25 states how we should not forsake the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another…….” I realize we can exhort each other from the privacy and solitude of our homes, (modern technology makes this all too easy) but there is something to be said for being with others.

Jesus, Himself, is the Word (John 1:1) but He went about being with people. He exhorted, healed, and taught. He shared love. He’s our example. He enjoyed and appreciated His creation of nature, but His focus was on humans. He desired for them to be with Him in heaven, one day. He still desires this. He wants that none should perish.

I trust that Jesus went to “prepare a place for” me. (John 14:3) I trust He is coming again for me. I thank Him.

Is He preparing a place for you????????????

Change

I keep reminding that God is good!

He blessed us with change and there are details involved in the change. God is gracious and He takes care of the details. Trust Him…..

Gnashing of Teeth…

as per the scripture, Matthew 24: 50 and 51: “The master of that servant will come on a day when he does not expect him and at that hour he is not aware of. He will cut him to pieces and assign him a place with the hypocrites, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”

Follow my train of thought, it’s gonna be quite a ride…..

As I prepared for some medical tests this past week, I had to drink some terrible tasting drink. I had to drink lots of it. I almost gagged. It was awful. I wanted to gnash my teeth and picture all sorts of images.(at the hospital with my husband)

After everything was all over with, I watched an entertaining show on TV. It was called “The Cool Kids”. If you are familiar with the actress/comedian Vicki Lawrence, she is one of the stars in this sitcom. It seems the character she is playing, is 65 years old and is frustrated or angry. She goes everywhere with a bottle of alcohol and has a “who cares” sort of attitude.

Well, in the flesh, I could picture 9 stages of a woman’s life. Since I was being forced to drink an awful colon prep drink in a certain amount of time, I decided the stages could be…

1.Childhood

2.Puberty

3.Boy Crazy

4.Marriage Mindedness

5.Kids

6.College/Career/Paying bills

7.Some Personal Accomplishments

8.A Bit of a Break

9.Anger/Frustration– (because now there are so many ailments, doctors, possibly widowhood)

See, lately there have been incidents in my life where I’ve kicked walls. I’ve wished I had a punching bag…. can anyone relate??

Let me know………Seasons of life………….

Please don’t “go there”………. Don’t be one who serves the wrong master. The end will have you in the place where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth for all eternity…

Serve God. Love and serve/follow Jesus. He is the only way to heaven.

Bliss

We were at church and heard a message on not negating your dreams. The pastor had referred to the dreams that keep you up at night….. The dreams that you feel would help to make your life complete.

Yes, my husband agreed it’s time we prepare for “the move” South. Yay!!

Yippee!!!!!  Hallelujah!!!!!!!!!!!!

God had to speak to my husband…

Every good and perfect gift comes from the Father of Lights…….. The Father……… GOD

Abba Father

Yes. God is my Father in a personal sense of the word. He’s my “daddy”, if you will. He’s enabled me to lose 11 pounds in 3 weeks, so far. (Yay!) He’s enabled me to travel, continue with life, have children, watch my children grow and have their own children, He’s let me see babies born and older folks pass away to heaven. He’s held me through divorces, depressions, illnesses, loneliness and much more. He’s let me experience being a published author and has always tended to my finances. I’m a well cared for child of God who can climb up in my heavenly Father’s lap and abide in His arms.(This is “perfect” Barbie going to her 45th class reunion. She’s changed. God is going to let me go to my 40th High School class reunion: “Thank You Father.”)

He gives me Spiritual gifts such as discernment while also giving me messages from pulpits. (or choir lofts) He makes sure I hear exactly what I need to hear from Him, when I need it because He has always cared for me. Always. Psalm 139:13 says: “For You created my inmost being: You knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (NIV)

Even before I was born, God knew I’d be set apart for Him. I would write for His glory. I’d be married to the man I’m married to now. He knew I’d thank God for my husband and I would learn as I go with him.

When I was young, I always played Barbie dolls for hours on end. I always thought the epitome of life, for me, would be to fall in love and get married. I asked God for a Godly husband. He gave me one. See Matthew 7: 9. (“Which of you, if your son asks you for bread, will give him a stone?”)

I’m still asking and waitingand God has heard and will answer.!!!!!!!!!!

God has more for me, even though this aging body isn’t as agile as it once was. He loves me.

He loves you. He will love you forever and ever. Do you trust Him?

Do you love Him?

Please comment below………

 

Things they are a-changin’

I realize I haven’t written for a while.

For so long, I was consumed with moving back to Florida, I was lost. Yes, I let me go. I let my health go, my weight go, my feelings go. I became a sort of numb.

The opportunity presented itself for me to take back my health. I’m taking back my peace, also. I’ll one day be able to cross my legs like this again. I’m not so consumed with Florida. This is a miracle. God is good.

So, I started a healthier eating decision. I’ll take my health back. I’ll feel better physically and emotionally. I have many mini goals, so I’m looking forward to my journey. I Have Something To Look Forward To. Yay!!!

I’m viewing this realistically. I’m approximating nine months to a better me. Nine months? Yes, this is as unto a pregnancy. That’s how I’m looking at it.

Get ready world, you are going to be seeing less of me: literally. Ha!

With my support team in place, I’ll not pout about the move from one state to the next so much. My focus is on getting rid of the tummy pains I’ve had, some bleeding I’ve had, and more. These vegetable/vitamin enriched foods, that are lean and green, are going to help me with my arthritis, also. I can’t wait till people start to notice and ask, “Have you lost weight?”  BIG Smile.

I am reminded I can do all things through Jesus Christ, Who strengthens me. Thank You, Jesus.

Are you interested in starting a health regime? Want to do this with me?? Let me know………..

Thanks

Sometimes I Just Can’t Believe It

Let me begin by saying God is love. Everything I write is based on my love for God, but, I am living in a real, sinful world.

That being said, there are some recent writings that I am thrilled with. There are some I’m confused about and can’t believe folks are still not getting that sin is sin.

I’ll start by saying that my blog posts can be found via goodreads.com author page: Lori Church. I’ve seen some comments that want to know where else I can be found. I can be found on Facebook via sanity in the waiting page and more. I am happy to say, I am seeing positive comments on this blog. Thank you!

I saw where this blog site is a 71 on woorank. Woorank is a site that sort of grades blogs and such, I believe. My response, is as always: WOW!

Now, the difficult stuff. I was almost bowled over when I read a post on a Christian based page on Facebook, where the person asked the world what they thought of living together outside of marriage. I’m sure the responses were immediate, with the negativity and scriptures. After seeing many responses, the writer of the post added that they didn’t say they were engaging in fornication. So, if I understand this, there’s a Christian person, writing to Facebook about moving in with the opposite sex, on a Christian persons’ page, asking where and if God says anything about living together.Well, God made humans to be sexual creatures. If not already, the situation where the couple is going to, or is living together, will be tempted to sin. Agree??

Marriage and relationships can be difficult. There’s no need to add difficulty like temptation, fighting over temptation, or, when things are just messy: having tensions rise. When there is tension, even the cap being left off the toothpaste will bring about arguments, yelling and who knows what else. The Apostle Paul knew this stuff and wrote to have folks just try to avoid all this mess at all cost. 1 Corinthians 7: 8 and 9 say: “I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry than to burn”.

I mentioned this verse to the person on Facebook. I added “than to burn in hell forever”. That is what Paul meant.

Boy! You would have thought….I don’t know what. I got a response from that person, that said they, in no way thought they would burn forever…. that that was ridiculous. Ummmm…..are people still reading the Bible? Are they asking God the meanings of what they read???? I know 2018 is a sinful time and in the end times people will not be given to marriage and so on…..BUT…..

Thou shalt have no other gods before Me

Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image

Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord in vain

Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it Holy

Honor thy father and mother

Thou shalt not kill

Thou shalt not commit adultery

Thou shalt not steal

Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor

Thou shalt not covet

These commandments still stand today.  Believe it!!!

“Life is like a box of Chocolates”

As per the line in the movie : “Forest Gump.

When I have those moments when nothing else will do, this is the size box of chocolates I desire!

I recently went to a museum where they had a “Chocolate Experience”. They told of the origins of the cacao tree and how the sweet, milk chocolate we love to eat, started as a bitter powder from a seed. There was much hard work put into harvesting, processing and the discovery that if you added milk (later added sugar) to the powder, you could have that delicious bar of chocolate to enjoy. (think Nestle and Cadbury brands)

Time was involved. Years of discovery and different peoples developed the finished product. Processing and hard labor took place, but now we can have the joy of chocolate on our tongues.

I, too, am a work in progress.

Christians are constantly being molded and conformed (developed) by God. I thank Him because “He that began a good work in me, will be faithful to complete it….unto the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1: 6.

Fourteen

Fourteen thousand dollars!

Yes, we are going to get that much money in less than 5 days. I have spent the money in my head several times. I’ve imagined how I’d move to the state I love to live in.  Since I love to write and make lists, I’ve listed and calculated how the monthly bills would be and every detail. I’ve imagined my new life with the sense of community I lack and desperately seek. I’ve prayed. I’ve sought God. I’ve talked to God about my hubby’s part in all this plan of mine. I’ve lost sleep…. Get the picture?!?!?

Alas, don’t you know what reality will be, though? I, the submissive wife, will submit. Before, when there was talk of a 5 year plan, that seemed unbelievably hard to fathom. Now, there’s a more simple 1 year plan. We will strive to turn the 14,000 into 70,000 in a year: then the move South will come.

A more “simple plan”?  There are approximately 330 days till “plan” can take effect. What can I do to make time speed by??

I’m reminded of the song by the group Lincoln Park. (remember them?) “In The End” had lyrics like “I’ve tried so hard and come so far, but in the end, it doesn’t even matter. I had to fall to lose it all, but in the end, it doesn’t even matter.” The lead singer of these lyrics ended up killing himself.

What’s it matter? I’ll keep my anonymous blog and I’ll hang in there 330 days. Perhaps I’ll get more involved in church. For a while, there was a thought I’d get a paying job. I’ve applied some places, but seems I’m hard to hire.Soften the days?????????

“Fill the days, oh God”…………….

Haggaii 2: 9

As I turn my eyes upon Jesus, I’m reminded of Haggaii 2: 9. “The latter glory of this house will be greater than the former, says the Lord of Hosts. And in this place I will provide peace, declares the LORD of Hosts.” I’m taking this as the latter part of my life will be greater than the first part. Thanks God. I am claiming this promise!

1 Corinthians 13: 4

The Love chapter….

In the Bible it says what love is, directly. It’s patient, kind, doesn’t envy, doesn’t boast, isn’t proud, isn’t rude or self-seeking, isn’t easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs, doesn’t delight in evil, rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, and never Ever Fails. (my abbreviated paraphrasing)

Well, as it is, I’m still hoping to move out of Ohio soon. My darling husband doesn’t ever want to move. He’s happy in his Ohio job. Biblically, as the wife, I should submit, right? I am having trouble with this. Though it is Summer, I know Winter is coming. Me and my imagination can just picture what I’d do differently this time, in the state that I want to live in. I can picture lots of things. I long for this life. Then, I think of the Love chapter.

Early in a marriage, people can be so lovey-dovey that they overlook moments of unkindness, moments of self-seeking, anger, not feeling totally protected, and so on. A couple kisses and makes up. That’s great. This is awesome in a Christ-based marriage. Then, situations change. Life starts throwing curveballs and roadmaps that were never expected so soon. I’m thinking of a very jerky roller coaster ride at the amusement park. These things happen, and there really is not amusement involved at all. A couple has to hold on for all they are worth and hold fast to Jesus.

We are holding fast. Our love hasn’t failed. My self-seeking wants to move. My husband’s self-seeking wants to stay in the nice job he enjoys, keep working with both his sons, and linger long enough to get a nice pension from this job. That is an ideal situation if he was single or totally “separated.” How do we rejoice in truth?? How do we rejoice in the truth of wanting different things?

I, daily, feel like we are oil and water. My husband is barely home: awake: 2 hours of each day and has to sleep. He does the lawn business also, because he’s committed to it and has given it to God.

I just know I could go live in an over 55 community and have more easy access to humans.

There was half a plan that my husband’s son would move his family into our Ohio home and pay rent to us, or just pay the mortgage company. They sort of want to move away from where they are living now. It seems all 6 humans involved in this story are fearful to change up the situation as it is now. I see the perfect opportunity coming in 17 days, as we will get the money for the selling of the campsite and I can take the 14,000 right down to where I want to live. I can make a deposit on a place. I can make arrangements with owners, as to making the payments/financing.

Am I being rude? (as well as easily angered) Dear Jesus….

Oh! Here’s some interesting side info. The pastor of our church, who counseled us, asks every week, “how things are going”. We smile and say fine. We are together. You see, if we are together, I’m not out of this state. That means we are not fine as an agreeable couple. We are coexisting as oil and water. Each day goes by and there’s no sign of my getting closer to my moving, my kindness is slipping away. (total transparency)

Ag!!

Dear Jesus!!!!

“Bows and Arrows”

The idea of a bow shooting an arrow out into the world to continue the work the bow started out doing, is a cool idea. (Pastor Barry Clardy) The “bow” is older and has had more experiences. In theory, the “bow” is a more seasoned/mature Christian and has weathered the storms the arrow will go forth and one day face. The arrow watches and learns. The “arrow” takes over when the “bow” is old, weary, about to pass on to heaven.

Generation to generation the lessons and experiences are passed down. Each generation adds his own unique tidbits.

Blessings are passed down too. We thank God for them. We pray we are able to pass down legacies of blessings to others.

While looking back on our Florida experiences, we thank God for the many lives we touched in 9 years. We admire the lives we’ve touched, and been touched by, in Ohio. We pray the good will remain after we depart. From family, lessons with the lawns, work ethic, cooking for big numbers of people, giving, and a love for God…we pray the “arrows” continue on in a big way.

Another Adventure?!?

He loves me. We had our anniversary and he is promising we can move back down south.I pray he won’t regret, nor resent this one day. What all would getting ready to move and downsize again entail??I’m thinking: to show the house, we need to take 5 cats to the Humane Society and commit. We’d be moving to a home owners association place where the maximum number of cats is 2. We had a nice anniversary, by the way. We didn’t really do anything too spectacular…. We need to sell the double campsite 40 minutes away: including cedar chest and some tools.Hubby says we need to have a yard sale here and get rid of the piano, some tools, books and cases,… Hubby says I would be the one to get to drive down and pick the place, leave my car, fly back, have finishing touches here, drive the Dodge Ram truck the 1000 mile trip while he drives the U-haul. My idea is to have all this done before the next 4 months are over with. My hubby wants to finish putting in the toilet/bathroom downstairs, here, so folks will want to buy the place immediately. We would be moving to a place with no basement, no garage, only a carport, a community swimming pool/gym/clubs/socializing….. He wants to keep his zero turn mower and some lawn customers. He would have to find a full time job. He thinks he may get back on with the schools. (Hernando County)  Alas, we know, my hubby isn’t getting any younger, so when he comes home from work now, he relaxes. He doesn’t start in on any of this prep. The whole idea seems so VAGUE…. (merely a dream?)

We put out the fleece (Biblical term) as far as “if we got a loan (not really debt consolidation, but sort of) that would be the go ahead on moving South again…Hmmm.. we got the loan. I prayed we would. I prayed Dr. Steele wouldn’t get his job in CA. too. (too many earthquakes and just too mucha too mucha) Dr. Steele says he probably didn’t get the job… Thanks for answered prayer, God.  Now, about this “adventure”…..

Current Catch Phrase in Churches

Have you heard people in church, from the pulpits, say, “Thanks for doing life with us”?

Doing life with us….Let me think about that. It seems very honorable. It seems like something Jesus did.

Yes, I hear people in church ask for prayer for healing, sickness concerning loved ones, traveling mercies and more: BUT what about real down to the nitty gritty life stuff?

As I am reading Perry Stone, Jr.’s book: “Feeding Demons”, I relate to the fact that there are spirits of, well many things, in today’s church. Being that my mother taught me pride and shame, I’m saddened that hurting people can’t go to church and tell their “church family” they are hurting. Don’t get me wrong, I have heard some people who never have positivity and always have pitiful things going on in their lives. They share this so often, we almost hate to see them approach us. Isn’t God ever doing Anything good in your life?(you want to ask) You are here, standing and speaking to me right now. That’s something to be grateful to God for.

The spirit of pride will keep a “church family member” from sharing their heart to a listening ear at church. Even if they do share a bit, the response can be a pitiful look and the words “I’ll pray for you”. But as soon as the listener leaves the hurting soul’s presence, they forget to pray and are happy to be away from the negative words. I must confess I do know some true Christians who will take the time and pray right then and there with the hurting person. Thank God for them.

One instance I can think of, a lady who was married more than 3 times in her life. Her current marriage is difficult for her right now because of some hard to manage differences she and her husband have. Now, she attends church with her smile on her face. She sings and goes through the motions. God speaks to her in the message and she gets fed. She goes to her car and questions God as per the message she just learned from, and her circumstances. She’s not able to do life with her fellow church members because the ones she is friendly with are just “Hi! How ya doin'” folk. They don’t want to really hear how she’s doing. They probably have troubles of their own. They don’t have time for her when she invites them to coffee or to her picnic type events.

Are we all so busy? Do we really not care about others? Do we really have spirits of shame, pride, envy, sloth and whatever else? These spirits don’t mind attending church, ya know. Ephesians 6: 12 reminds us “we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”

Let’s take a moment and pray for the ones who are combating the spirits of strife in marriage. Let’s take Authority over these spirits in Jesus’ name and let’s make a point to try to do better at “sharing life together”.

God is love. He wants us to share ourselves…….

Shout out to Evangelist Perry Stone

He reminds us that we shout to the Lord with praise. There are other kinds of shouts in God’s presence too. We can shout for joy. We can shout for Victory. We can shout as a battle cry. We can shout as a cry out loud.

“Victory has a big mouth”. Death is swallowed up in victory. We are overcomers by the word of our testimony. Death, where is thy sting? (1 Corinthians 15: 55)

Pastor Stone dissected the meanings behind shouting and dancing in praise. He explored the difference between praise and worship, in great detail. I really appreciated this.

I’m a bit reserved in church. When instructed to “give a shout to the Lord”, I do give a big “Whewwww!” (which is more than some do, and less than some)  BUT, I realized, today as I was shouting a big “Hey!” to the cats, I was declaring to them to behave.

We can liken this to shouting for Victory and against the Enemy of our souls. “Hey! The victory has been won. You have to leave me alone! I resist you in the name of Jesus and with the power of His blood.”   Graceful and feminine though I am….I will shout before the Lord (in His sanctuary) more often……….

1Day Life With…

One day I’ll have a life with my wife

One day I won’t have to work ALL the time

One day, our lives will be our own

One day, our days, we won’t have to groan.

Business to tend to, money to earn—all the money- we just seem to burn

Curtail our spending, enrich our home–Gee, we hope we get this loan.

Messes everywhere- junk to straighten, animals to tend to—-Boy! She’s a hatin’.

Tensions high-seems nothings getting done, the more I work, the more I run.

Running, working, collapsing, sleeping– all the while our house she’s keeping

She makes the house a “home” I say, but in her solitude, she wonders why to stay:

where she knows she doesn’t want to be, she desires warmth and more sanitar-y.If she’s going to be alone either way, why to stay? Why to stay??

Not as young as I used to was, I wear myself out and can’t do more in the “home”.

HOME? She says she feels like it’s the pumpkin shell, where I keep her very well.

Used to say “Time will tell, time will tell, God is good, all is well…..”

Got a little counsel, couldn’t put it fully into play.

Others tear at my time and we don’t have time to sit and pray,……together as One.

Things to be done, gotta learn the new job, gotta train the fellas for the lawns and the odd job and….never done

Downsize she says. Simplify she says. I don’t have the time or energy to sort and make the house a Good Housekeeping page….bills to pay, money is my lure.

We married and I told her I work a lot. She heard “things we gotta get got”.

No! We are curtailing now, but my nose is still at the plow.

Warm, sunny,  is where she wants to be, to start a life– with a community.

Pool, Bingo, Book Club, socials, and more, only a few steps from her door.

Her little, quaint place with not a pillow out of place. Simple, mostly alone as she’s always been.

Oh! But don’t tell my folks! They always did make the jokes….about her wanting to be where it’s warm. They had concern when I said I was transporting her to the Northern harm.

They know of her discontent. They know I’m a great guy and am the best “catch” she’ll ever have met.

They get indignant with her desire to keep out of the cold. Fifty degrees isn’t a mess to contend with: her body is just old.

Wait!! She and I understand each other. Life without her would be such a bother.

Maybe I should get some energy drinks and go 24/7.

Maybe the purchase of the campsite to increase our bills wasn’t such a good idea….hopefully, the family (I got it for the whole family) will purchase it from me and take over the bills.

What am I saying: the entire family has money ills.

I have decisions to make.Sell everything and start life again where she wants to be(I get so over-heated there, I believe I’ll be ill), file bankruptcy, downsize/clean the clutter, promise to do better, make time for taking walks together…..

Oh! If I slow down and our money is under control, I won’t have to go 90 miles a minute and I may not over-heat. I can take off my man bra and be cooler, too. I can just let my hair down and live easy. Perhaps we can go fishing.

Retirement would be ideal, but that’s a few years away. My body sure would like to retire, though……

Dear God, I pray, Dear Lord,….You know my heart and Ohhhhhhhh

Guide me, lead me, help me……..my future, You know.

You put the wife and me together, she has her health and desires…….are we gonna be put asunder??

Help……… In Jesus’ name….